Creating a schedule for
visitation will take some time at first—but one that may prove to serve you
and your children better in the future. A visitation schedule offers structure,
which is so important for children who may feel their lives have been
disrupted from a
divorce. It reduces some of the confusion, as children know when to anticipate
when they will see their parent.
A visitation schedule can help everyone feel more comfortable about the
custody situation, and possibly reduce any potential conflict or confusion
about custody. This is because you are creating a structure that is already
agreed upon schedule. Ultimately, it will be up to each parent to decide
how they would like to settle the custody arrangement.
Some options might include:
- When one parent has sole custody, the child will live with that parent
and visit with the other
- In a joint custody situation, the child will divide the time to spend spend
with each parent
What to Consider When Creating a Holiday Visitation Schedule
Think about the holidays that should be included in your schedule. This
could also include school holidays and other days where your child will
be home for the day. The holidays can be stressful for many families.
For families who are going through or have already gone through divorce,
the feelings of confusion, stress, and resentment can rise to the surface,
clouding judgment and make the weeks filled with anguish more so than
joy. This is why creating a custody or visitation schedule
Here are some of our suggestions for handling holiday visitation schedules:
- Keep the doors of communication open
- Be flexible when making an arrangement
- Have an open mind about when trying to arrive at a compromise
- Prioritize what is most important and let others know, so that everyone
is on the same page
- Talk with your children about their wants and needs during the holidays
Once a schedule has been created, it will allow you the chance to find
a schedule to stick to. Once the children become more accustomed to the
structure that schedules bring. That will help when you go to create a
holiday visitation schedule.
As always, you can discuss any custody matters further with Westlake Village
child custody attorney, Jeffrey S. Graff. For more information, please
do not hesitate to
contact the firm.