In most relationships, couples experience disagreements and argue every
now and then. However, violence is vastly different from typical martial
or relationship issues.
Domestic violence is described as an abusive pattern that is used by an individual to control
the behavior and actions of another. It often begins with name-calling,
threats, slamming doors, and breaking things, and then it can escalate
to pushing, slapping, punching, and other violent acts.
If you are concerned that your marriage or relationship is heading toward
a violent path, ask yourself, does your partner:
- Make all of the decisions?
- Embarrass you by using put-downs?
- Control your behavior or actions, such as where you go, who you get to
talk to or see?
- Prevent you from seeing your family members or friends?
- Prevent you from working or attending classes at school?
- Act or look at you in a frightening manner?
- Tell you that you are a bad parent and threaten to take the children away
or hurt them?
- Act like the abuse is your fault or not a huge deal, or even deny it exists?
- Threaten to kill you?
- Threaten to commit suicide?
- Intimate you with a firearm or a deadly weapon?
- Physically abuse you?
If you have a friend, relative, coworker, or neighbor you believe may be
involved in an abusive relationship, the following are common signs of
someone experiencing domestic violence:
- Bruises and injuries which appear to be derived from choking, punching,
or being thrown around. Keep an eye out for black eyes, as well as red
or purple marks at the neck or arms.
- Makes excuses like being clumsy or being prone to accidents.
- Attempts to hide bruises with clothing or makeup.
- Has few close friends and is isolated from others.
- Has to ask permission to do things with other people.
- Has no money available, or even credit cards or a car.
- Has low self-esteem, constantly apologizing for their behavior and actions.
- Has an alcohol or drug abuse problem.
- Has symptoms of depression, including sadness or loss of interest in things
he or she used to enjoy.
- Talks about suicide or attempting suicide.
Are you a victim of domestic violence? Contact the Law Office of Jeffrey
S. Graff and
schedule a free, confidential consultation with our experienced Westlake Village attorney today.