If you and your spouse have decided to move forward with a divorce, it
might feel like the right time to begin your new life and find a new companion
by re-entering the dating pool. This is often a big mistake, however,
and can have a negative impact on the outcome of your divorce settlement.
Furthermore, dating during your divorce often has emotional ramifications
as well, which is why it is wise to wait until after the process is finalized.
Here are some reasons why you should consider holding off on dating until
after your marriage is officially over:
It could fuel your ex’s anger: No matter how amicable your divorce might be, the fact is that your ex-spouse
might feel a little enraged knowing that you have moved on so quickly
and will likely try to make your life hell as a form of revenge. If you
share children, maintaining a civil relationship with him or her will
be especially important for their sake. Having a solid co-parenting relationship
will make your life and the lives of your children a lot easier.
It could harm the outcome of your settlement: If your new partner is someone whom you began dating before you filed
for divorce and you spent a substantial amount of money on him or her,
this can be seen as wasteful dissipation of assets and will affect how
much you receive during property and asset division. It might also make
you appear dishonest.
It can impact child custody: Your new choice of partner might impact your chances at child custody
if he or she has a criminal history or an otherwise unsavory past. Domestic
violence charges or accusations of sexual misconduct are serious and will
likely be used against you, especially if there is animosity between you
and your spouse and he or she is eager to suffer some consequences.
It can have an emotional impact: Getting a divorce is an emotional experience, so you should not neglect
this aspect when it comes to the question of dating. This is a vulnerable
time for you, even if you initiated the divorce. To suddenly begin dating
before you have really had a chance to cope with the situation and truly
process it will do a disservice to any new relationship you choose to
begin. Try to take some time to rediscover the person you are without
your spouse, so you can build a good foundation for a new relationship.
Divorce Attorney in Westlake Village
I, Jeffrey S. Graff, have been guiding countless individuals through the
divorce process for over three decades. If you have decided to proceed
with a divorce, I can help you move onto the next chapter of your life
as smoothly as possible.
Contact the Law Offices of Jeffrey S. Graff today at
(805) 633-4999 to schedule a free consultation.