Divorce is an emotional time in anyone’s life. Even though it may be sad, it can also be filled with many happy and hopeful feelings. If you are going through a divorce or considering divorce during the beginning of the year, consider making your New Year’s resolutions about the process. The New Year is about clean starts and new beginnings. Focusing your resolutions about making your divorce the start of a new chapter can help you through the difficult process and fixed on a silver lining.
Here are three New Year’s resolutions to help you through your divorce:
- Finish Your Divorce This Year - This divorce process can be long and stretched out, sometimes over the years. Instead of expanding this stressful process out over a long period, vow to keep it short and within 2017. You’ll be glad when it’s all done.
- Don’t Bad-Mouth Your Ex - It may be difficult not to say terrible things about your ex and what they put you through, especially if they are speaking poorly about you. It is important to take the high road on this one, especially when it comes to any children you share and social media. Your kids don’t need to hear how their parents are fighting. Keep any ill-will you have to private conversations with friends, off-line, and away from your children.
- Forgiveness - Harboring bad feelings, like anger or resentment, is as damaging (if not more so) to the person holding on to it. Being able to forgive your ex for any wrong doings during your marriage is a huge step in the recovery process after a divorce. More importantly, make sure you forgive yourself. Your marriage failed, but it is okay. Forgive yourself for the role you played in the end of your union, and if it blindsided you, forgive yourself for not seeing the warning signs before the end.
It is never too late to set resolutions and goal to better yourself and your life. Following these resolution ideas can help you let go of the past and focus on a brighter future.
If you are currently faced with a divorce, contact our Westlake Village divorce attorney at the Law Offices of Jeffrey S. Graff. We offer consultations!