Breaking up is hard to do, there’s no doubt about it. When you’re legally bound to your partner through marriage, it’s inevitable the breakup is even more harrowing. Divorce might even be the most stressful thing you’ll ever do. While you and your ex are undoubtedly adversarial in your crumbling relationship, you may forego good self-care practices to lower your stress level. Follow these tips to help you keep your metaphorical head above water.
Have a Positive Outlook
When you decide to divorce, it represents the ending not only to your relationship, but to many other things you held dear. However, the good news is you are starting a new chapter of your own life. That city you’ve always wanted to live in? You can move there now. That hobby your spouse didn’t support? Well, now you can enjoy it to your heart’s content. What about that job your spouse didn’t want you to pursue? Nothing’s in your way from sending in your application, now.
By reframing your thinking about how you’ll feel freer and happier post-divorce, you can see the light at the end of what may seem like an endless tunnel. Have faith.
Get the Support You Need
Nobody is an island. Divorce is a stressful time on its own, and combined with the stressors of divorce-related matters, it’s no wonder so many couples find the process incredibly stressful. You have resources at your disposal to lighten the load you carry, though, and it’s up to you to use them. Don’t hesitate to reach out to a therapist for an objective, compassionate listener who can help you reframe your mindset and move forward with positivity.
Pick Up Something New
Say you and your ex enjoyed hiking together or going to see comedy shows – your split can make engaging in these activities by yourself less enjoyable than it once was. Instead of reopening old wounds, you can pick up a new hobby all on your own. Find something you enjoy, even if you don’t think you have a natural knack for it at first. So long as the new activity takes your mind off your divorce, it’s a useful distraction in the worst-case scenario, and a new passion in the best of circumstances.
Instead of going on a hike, think of taking up Zumba classes to get your body moving. Don’t worry about looking foolish, because it’s likely everybody else in the class feels self-conscious, too. Have fun with it! Another replacement hobby you can start up is taking improv comedy classes. Again, you’ll likely feel like a fish out of water at those first few classes, but it will undoubtedly put a smile on your face and take your mind off your woes.
Let Your Family Law Attorney Go to Bat for You
Filing for divorce isn’t easy, but one of the best things you can do for a better outcome is lower your stress so you can cope in a healthy way. Ultimately, it will help you maintain your focus so you get the outcome you had hoped for all along. At the Law Offices of Jeffrey S. Graff, our knowledgeable, compassionate team is here to help take the stress out of deciphering all the legalese so you can focus on what you want out of your divorce with our legal guidance. We aim to make the process as low-stress as possible as your legal advocates.
Reach out to our law firm today by calling (805) 633-4999 to set up your initial consultation.